OnlyBlue

We don’t ‘get over’ the deepest pains of life, nor should we. ‘Are you over it?’ is a question that cannot be asked by someone who has been through ‘it,’ whatever ‘it’ is. It’s an anxious question, an asking for reassurance that cannot be given. During an average lifetime there are many pains, many grieves to be borne. We don’t ‘get over’ them; we learn to live with them, to go on growing and deepening, and understanding… — Madeleine L’Engle, Sold Into Egypt.

There is only one way for you to live without grief in your lifetime; that is to exist without love. Your grief represents your humannes, just as your love does. — Carole Staundacher.

What is needed is an impossible situation where one has to renounce one’s own will and one’s own wit and do nothing but wait and trust the impersonal power of growth and development. When you are up against a wall, be still and put down roots like a tree, until clarity comes from deeper sources to see over the wall. — Carl Jung

My brother was so good to me. When we were kids, he always let me go first. The night he died, he looked up at me, smiled his little crooked smile, and said, Sis’, this time let me go first. — Connie Danson, eulogy for her brother, Fran Darnell.

Do not stand
at my grave and weep.
I am not there
I do not sleep.

I am a thousand
winds that blow.
I am the
diamond on snow.

I am the
sunlight
on the ripened
grain.

I am the
gentle autumn’s
rain.

When you awaken
in the morning hush,
I am the swift
uplifting rush
of quiet birds in
circled flight.

I am the
soft stars that
shine
at night.

Do not stand
at my grave
and cry:
I am not there,
I did not die.

-a Hopi Prayer